Mom and dad are in the kitchen roaming
about with dad swigging down his last drop of coffee and mom
tidying up after the kids have ate and rushed off to school.
The two kiss each other as they rush out the door heading
off to work. Mom heads one direction, dad goes another
direction, and finally they both meet their destination.
At work, the hours go by and tasks are
completed, but as mom sits at her desk, her mind begins to
wonder. “What do I cook for supper?” she thinks. Her mind
continues racing as she recalls the Parent Teachers
Conference the following week. Mom now has to find time off
work to join the meeting, and hopes that her children are
doing well in school. When she arrives home, she cooks,
cleans and finds time to relax after a busy schedule. Dad
has already hit the couch watching the latest news, while
the kids are in their room doing homework.
A common relationship is ongoing, and the
next week mom makes the Parent Teacher Conference all to
find that her children are failing in school. She thinks,
“Have I encouraged my children enough?” Mom begins to blame
her self, and when she arrives home anxious to talk with her
husband, she finds him absence. Dad had to work late again
to meet his deadlines, so she calls the office where dad
works and dad is not answering the phone. Later that evening
dad comes home. The kids are in bed and mom is sitting
aimlessly staring into the space, when dad says, “Hi honey,
how was your day?”
Mom frustrated and confused snaps, “How
was your day.” Dad shoots her a curious look and says, “I am
sorry honey, I had to work late again.” Mom shots back with
a hint of anger, “Why didn’t you answer the phone when I
called.” She walks up to her husband and smells a reek of
alcohol on his breath. “You worked late, huh,” she stammers
with a hint of “yea right.” Dad stares for a moment and
says, “Ok, I did stop off for a few drinks at the local
tavern, I was only there for an hour, I swear.” Mom stares
haplessly at him for a moment and turns on her heals,
storming out of the room.
What do you think will happen next? As we
can see we have love and relationship, and a family
arrangement, but something is missing to make this
relationship stand. We can review the scenario together to
see which elements needed to make this relationship solid.
In the first scene, family arrangement is in tact since it
takes two to work to make ends meet. Thus, the parents are
readying for work, while the children are heading off to
school. Mom has done her job in preparing breakfast, and
kissing dad as he rushes off to work.
Mom has also attended the meeting, and
adhered to her motherly and spouse duties, and has worked at
her job. Would it help if dad helped her along in the
kitchen and around the house, since mom has two jobs? Yes,
it would help. Still, this is only one of the elements to
make a relationship stand. Sharing is always a good thing in
love and relationships. When two people share, it brings
them together.
Mom has emotions that are instigating
trouble, since she is blaming her self for her children’s
failure, and shows those emotions when dad comes home with
the reek of alcohol on her breath. Dad doing as he pleases,
would not like it if the tables turned.
Obviously, mom is feeling frustrated and
appears to take it out on dad, which makes him think or
readers believe that mom is emotional. However, mom
expressed her feelings with assertiveness and disagreement;
still she stormed out of the room, leaving the conversation
hanging in the air. We see a lack of communication in this
family, since from the beginning of the story to the end; we
did not hear communication between the children, mom or dad.
We also need respect to make this relationship stand.