Common causes that lead to divorce and/or
separation include jealousy. Other problems such as abuse,
bigamy, adultery, guilt, abandonment, imprison, conflicting
beliefs, inconsideration, disrespect, and lack of commitment
in general.
Jealousy comes in two forms. One form is
harmful while the other form is legit. Jealousy delivered in
disposition of attitude and/or feelings often cause harm,
while zealous forms of jealousy enforce love. Zealous is a
watchfulness eye that looks out for the loved one. Zealous
mates will work hard to make sure harmful objects or persons
are not in the way of true love. Zealous persons will labor
throughout the relationship to deliver and fulfill needs to
their mate.
Jealousy acted out on hurt emotions can,
only further the problem. If a man has a wandering eye, of
course this is wrong, since it is showing disregard and lack
of respect to the mate. The action also tells the mate that
if someone else came along the man may stray. The action
further tells the mate that lust is the partners may focus,
thus elements of love that make the relationship firm are
non-existing, or lacking.
Of course, the mate may feel jealous and
with good cause, but allowing the emotions to override
thought will only enforce the inappropriate behaviors of the
partner.
Inappropriate habits and behaviors, which
include careless viewing of programs, or careless
consideration in choices overall can increase jealousy,
since the emotions become triggered. If the partner has a
habit of watching nude programs, pornography, or else
reading materials of such content, he/she is lacking respect
for the mate. Thus, obvious reason for jealousy exist (zealous)
since the mate is wronged, thus the relationship will have
problems.
When a person loves another person, the
mate will hold the up most attention to the partner. A man
that loves his wife will not be looking at other women with
sexual eye, or else with intentions of spicing up the
relationship. Rather, the man will take pleasure and
enjoyment with his mate’s makeup, and find pleasure,
satisfaction and joy from the person. Women are not objects
of sexuality, or entertainment, however women as well as men
are objects, since both work with the other to breakdown
relationships.
Thus, this type of relationship is a
one-way street, since one partner is self-devoted, and
focuses on lust, while the other partner is working alone to
keep a relationship alive.
Abuse is another form of disrespect,
inconsideration and an action that breaks down relationships.
Love may exist on one end of the relationship, but at the
other end hate lurks the chambers of the hurting souls. When
a man and/or women strike their mate, especially a man,
since physically he is stronger, thus, love is not evident.
Women that abuse good men that will not hit a woman are poor
excuses of women. Likewise, men that batter women are poor
excuses of human beings. Men, are guided to love their mate
as them self. When a man strikes his mate, the bible clearly
states that any man treated his wife treacherous will meet
the wrath of God. Thus, the hate inside these types of men
has no room for love and commitment. These types are
surefire illustrations of self-devotion and
self-gratification.
When a mate commits an act of adultery or
fornication with another individual outside of the
relationship, thus the person is showing disregard and
inconsideration to the partner in the relationship. When the
mate continues the deceitful treatment against the mate by
lying, thus over time the relationship will fail, since God
has a way of making the light known to others.
When a person commits bigamy, adultery or
fornication outside a relationship, thus the person is
saying to the mate that you have no worth to me.
Thus, adultery or acts inappropriate in
relationships often lead to guilt. Guilt is the number one
force that will consume the mind and eat at it until someone
snaps. When a person lives on good standards and beliefs,
thus, it leaves little room for guilt therefore a
relationship will stand.